Tonight while at Mass I was either forced to listen to a video presentation on the vocation of married life, or daydream for the next 10-15 minutes or so. What did I choose? I chose to half-listen; I know that’s kind of bad, but when you have no interest in the married life and you know that your parents aren’t physically married any more (for those who don’t know/recall Daddy‘s been, hopefully, in heaven for almost 10 years now) it’s kind of hard to get excited about this weekend being World Wide Marriage Encounter Weekend. As I listened, or rather half-listened, I realized the Catholic Church seems to glamorize marriage and seem that it’s not ideal to be single or even widowed. That’s so sad; especially because while in school (elementary school that is) I remember during Vocation Awareness Week that I was taught that some people are called to different types of vocations other than religious or married life — some are called to the single life. Even back then I remember thinking it would be cool to be called to the single life. I thought married life, despite my parents having a fairly successful one, seemed very stressful because you not only had to be faithful to your spouse you also had to raise several kids (because everyone knows that as a Catholic you’re supposed to always be open to the possibility of pregnancy and childbirth), support the family financially, stay true to the Gospel, and who knows what else. I also found the vocation to the religious life would be hard because you always have to be up early for morning vespers, there’s a time to be completely silent, and you live a life mostly of solitude. I was never an early morning person until a lot later in life and anyone who knows me very well knows it’s hard to keep me quiet. So the vocation of single life seemed the best fit for me. I still think this way and even though I may never have a family of my own, it makes the most sense for me to live my life vicariously with everyone else’s family or spiritual life. It’s a very fulfilling life and not as stressful as far as financial burdens and staying faithful to your spouse as you wouldn’t have one to worry about it. Anyway, that’s my spiel on why the single life vocation isn’t really as bad as you think.
Love and prayers, as always! ❤