Normally I don’t take time out of my very busy schedule this time of year to reflect on a lot, but today (for some weird reason) I took time to reflect. I reflected on a lot. I reflected on last night’s family Christmas party. I reflected on my relationships. I reflected on my own life. I am about to share with you a lot of my reflections in hopes they will help you to reflect yourself on some of your own relationships, life, family, etc.
Last night at our family Christmas party a lot of hurtful words were exchanged between Steven and my cousin’s husband. They are both engineers, but one is software (my cousin’s husband) and one is electronics/electrical (Steven). Both are also avid gamers; they also both use logic, but they can play on emotions and yet one is a bit harsher and can be a big bully (and it sure isn’t Steven). Now, I know my cousin’s husband is a subscriber to this blog and I’m trying not to be disrespectful in any way, however, I do wish to tell him (and everyone else) to be more careful with your word choices and your tone of voice. You can come across as being a bully even if you’re not trying. I admit even I fall short on this one. My manager is quick to remind me to always say please and not to be too quick to judge or jump down someone’s throat when they do something wrong. Words also failed to be exchanged when Steven said what he’d done recently to help improve things at home (e.g., just recently he changed a couple of light switches), but instead of telling him how great he was for doing it no one said a word about it. Instead they just asked how the switch failed and when Steven tried to explain relatives jumped down his throat saying that it was a poor design, as if he designed it. Seriously?!
At another point during our family Christmas party I watched my younger cousins tackling each other and trying to ride each other like piggy-back and like a bucking bronco. As I watched them I took time to reflect on my own childhood and relationship with Steven. I remembered being so young and having so much energy; I also remembered that when I was this young I was still friends with Steven. A few years later, due to my own failings, I fell out of my friendship with Steven only to rekindle it many years later. I looked at my two younger cousins and hoped they would never lose their friendship with each other, or if they do they’d become friends again like Steven and I did.
I guess that’s all I have for tonight, but I hope it helped shed some light on a few areas of my life as well as some fodder for you to reflect on your own life. I’ll try to write more later this week, but until then…
Love and prayers, as always! ❤